Abstract: Cancer patients view their problems differently. It is up to each one to chose the positive and discard the negative. By doing this your perception on life and your illness will change. You will not feel that you are just an unfortunate victim. It will then dawn on you that in any circumstances that you may be in, there is always a positive or brighter side to things. Therefore, we need not always view things from a negative view point. A relaxed and peaceful mind is very important for you to regain composure. At the same time it also provides the very best environment for your body to heal itself. Fear, confusion and negative emotions within will impede the body’s healing process.
Chris K. H. Teo
CA Care, Penang, Malaysia
I remember talking to one lady who had breast cancer. I told her this: I am glad that you are fine. You are indeed lucky. She replied: “I have cancer, what is so lucky about that?” And I said: “You are lucky because your arm is not swollen, your liver and bone are okay. There are many others who suffered metastasis after their chemotherapy and radiotherapy. And you are alright! That is why I said you are lucky, very lucky.” In contrast, a few patients had told me: “I am glad that I had breast cancer. Because of this, I got to know you.” There is one Dr. Shirley who had breast cancer and she once told me: “I am so happy. With this cancer, I have learned how to save my whole family. My children and husband are much healthier now than they were before. Before I got cancer I did not know anything about a healthy diet. Now the family enjoys good food.”
Cancer patients view their problems differently. It is up to each one to chose the positive and discard the negative. By doing this your perception on life and your illness will change. You will not feel that you are just an unfortunate victim. It will then dawn on you that in any circumstances that you may be in, there is always a positive or brighter side to things. Therefore, we need not always view things from a negative view point. A relaxed and peaceful mind is very important for you to regain composure. At the same time it also provides the very best environment for your body to heal itself. Fear, confusion and negative emotions within will impede the body’s healing process.
Many cancer patients who do not fear their cancers anymore ultimately enjoy a peaceful state of mind. They learn how to live with their illnesses and feel at ease. When you are calm and have attained this stage of consciousness in your mind, many good things can happen and flow from you.
1) More blessed to give
You will learn that it is more blessed to give than to receive. You open your heart to others and share. By sharing you not only give and help others but you also heal yourself from within. Jee Sun had renal cancer and has been on the herbs for the last nine years. He is still doing fine today. He told me: “The old Jee Sun is dead. I am the new Jee Sun. I have found peace and at the same time am healing myself by helping others.” Many people unfortunately do not see this point. They prefer to hide in their own shell, refusing to talk and share. Selfishness or fear does not help you heal. It is most regrettable too that some people believe that if you are well after an illness, you must keep your mouth shut. Going around telling others about your recovery is to “invite the devil” to come back and have his “revenge” again. Many patients used to tell me: “I don’t want people to know that I have cancer. It is bad luck or it is a curse, and I am ashamed.” Let me tell you this: “There is nothing to be ashamed about. To get sick is also not bad luck or a curse by the devil or God.” Sickness is a natural process. Look at the branches of any big tree. Some branches are diseased and they rot away. Some are broken and snap off due to strong winds while others grow straight and healthy. That is what Nature is. In the same way we need to look at our life as a natural process like that of a tree. In the old days, some religions taught us that illness was a punishment from an angry God. I say to you, it is not.
My own experiences tell me that by giving my heart more to others, I also benefit more in return. While on this point, I am reminded of one young lady, a bank officer. She came to our house late one night because of her mother’s cancer. She told me: “Oh, you are helping people. Your God will give you all the points when you die.” I told her: “Young lady, I do all these without even thinking of wanting to collect points. Fortunately, I do not believe in a God who gives out points for good work. My God is Love.” My message is if you give with an intention or hope of getting back something in return, you will be disappointed. Worldly possessions do not necessarily bring real happiness. When I help others and they become well, there is great indescribable sense of satisfaction and joy in the heart that no money can buy. Generating such feelings in yourself is good for health and healing! It is medicine unto itself and is more powerful than herbs or drugs.
2) Count your blessings
The events in life can be perceived differently by different minds. A mind full of hatred and anger sees things as always being destructive. The good is never seen or appreciated. A mind ingrained with love sees things positively and always sees blessings in any crisis or circumstance. My advice is: Learn to count your blessings. Give thanks with a grateful heart for each new day. Be grateful for what you are and what you have. Live one day at a time. And most important of all, try to seek the inner meaning of your illness. Your mind, soul or body is giving you a message for being sick. Seek that inner voice and understand its message.
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